1. Wow Pia. Your childhood sounds miserable, and I’m sorry you had to go through that. It’s not fair. Hopefully you can continue to develop your own sense of self-esteem with the support of people in your life now.

    I too fall into the trap of faster, faster, faster. Even this morning I was trying to remember how I took the email sign-up form off my blog posts. The thing is, I turned it off for a reason. It’s more important to me to have a clean reading experience than grab emails. Yet I fall into the trap of wanting to follow in the footsteps of others.

    It’s like writing an investor policy statement – we need to know (and write down) why we started the blog in the first place, then return to it for guidance when things get rocky.

    I highly recommend this post by Erin from Journey to Saving, who recently came to the same conclusion you did.

    • pia

      The self-esteem thing is coming along. Luckily my confidence and self-esteem in my work is quite healthy, so I am fairly secure in that. Not so in the looks department but my husband helps a lot.

      The trap is easy to fall into, isn’t it? You are right. I think I need to keep reminding myself why I came back to blogging to begin with, why I started doing this again. For me, not for anyone or anything else!

      Thanks for recommending that post – I will nosey on over!

  2. Thanks for sharing this story Pia. Sorry to hear about your struggles though. It sounds like you’re in a better place now, in many ways.

    You raise some really good points. It’s a really tricky balance between wanting to be better and being happy the way we are!

    We should be doing things like blogging because we enjoy it and want to share things… not as an attempt to chase success and popularity. It’s easy to forget those things. I find myself trying to do too much reading, regarding investing mainly, and it’s often counter-productive. I forget half of it and then I feel that I need to read more and more all the time like it’s never enough. I really enjoy it but then just get carried away to the point where it’s not enjoyable anymore.

    It’s good to step back and relax and just take things slowly, a bit at a time 🙂

    Really good post!

    • pia

      That is an interesting point on reading. I too have found that I want to read more and more, and the lack of time in which to read these finance and investment books have been frustrating me quite a lot. I also feel that skimming through them would do them quite a disservice and I like to read with a pen and paper by my side to jot notes, which takes up even more time. The cycle goes on. Whoops!

      Maybe we all need to set an alarm or a scheduled relaxation day in the calendar once a month or so!

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